Prepare siblings for babys home bringing

Your preparing for the new born baby and excitement knows no bounds at your home, even the other kids are excited a new baby will enter the family. But that's only till the baby arrives as once the siblings feel all the attention is towards the new baby and less for themselves, they are bound to get jealous and its quite a normal feeling. They may also become more demanding, disruptive, or aggressive and may regress in many of their behaviors, including not wanting to use the potty anymore, using baby talk or having frequent temper tantrums. Below are some tips to help prevent this sibling rivalry.

During the pregnancy months:
Teach them(the older siblings) that a baby is growing inside of you and about to come home very soon, once the tummy is showing. Involve them to prepare for baby home coming like allowing them to choose their own colors and choice while shopping for the baby's new room, cloths for baby, toys and new born needs. and this will make them feel that also have a role in the new baby's life and this will ease the transition of having a sibling at home to share your attention.

Towards delivery
To minimize the jealously that a sibling may feel towards a new baby, try to not make too many other changes in your children's routine close to the delivery. If you are going to move your child out of a crib and into a bed, into another room, or into a new day care, it would be better to do it well before the new baby is born. Your child may otherwise feel displaced by the baby and feel resentment towards him. Also, don't try and teach your child new skills, such as potty training, close to the delivery date, and expect regression of already mastered skills.

Continue to talk about the pregnancy as it progresses and prepare for your children for the delivery. Consider allowing him to visit the hospital or attend sibling classes if they are available.

While in the hospital
Call your other children frequently while you are in the hospital and if possible, allow them to visit you once the baby is born, or if that is not possible, send them a picture.

When you come home
When you finally do come home, try and have someone else carry the baby inside or at least hand him to someone else, and then spend some time with your other children. You may also consider buying a special gift that you can give to your children from the baby.
Continue to spend special time with your other children and remind visitors to pay attention to siblings and not just to the new baby and include the siblings in pictures and other activities.

The new baby's first months
Your other children may feel neglected as the new baby demands a lot of your time. You can help this by spending time alone with your other children each day, allowing them to help with simple tasks such as getting a new diaper or toy, and encouraging them to touch and play with the new baby.
You should also accept any regression in your children's behaviors and supervise all contact so that he can't harm the baby.

Sex Determination in India

In India it is against the laws to undergo a gender determination test and this is because some people find out the gender of the baby within the womb and on knowing it’s a female, either abort the child or use some other means to kill the fetus. It’s tremendously horrifying to hear these things daily, but I do read them time and time again in the news papers and on TV. Because of the lack of education and knowledge about sex in the people of rural India, often land up reproducing more and more children in the hopes of a male offspring, who could help towards income, also he would be the one to carry on the family title. A female is often unwanted as she is cast as a burden that would be dependent on her family for everything, so to avoid the responsibility of her expenditure and marriage the parents kill their female child at birth itself by throwing them away in some isolated area or drowning them. Middle class people despite being educated and aware, still try to find out the gender and either celebrate or go on a killing/abortion spree. An abortion is legal here, but an abortion is meant to terminate the fetus in critical conditions, and not meant to kill a child! This heinous crime should be stopped immediately!

Infant the gov has now put lots of laws into action to prevent this type of crime. Boards are put up at every maternity clinic, strictly mentioning that the gender determination is a crime, and punishment will be severe. If you go for an ultrasonagraphy you musn’t even ask the doctor about the gender, which I was exactly aware of and didn’t dare to know what the gender of my child, was. It didn’t even mater so much if my child was a male or female... But god blessed me with both!

Raising happy kids

Brats are not born, they’re made. Be more caring and attentive towards your kiddo right from the start, you can ensure your kiddo is happy and cheerful this way- most of the times, at least!

Don’t play their hands: kids tend to test the limits their parents set for them but
A good parent knows when to give up and when to give in.

B a role model to your kids: eating healthy yourself will ensure your kid has eating healthy habits too.

Find the Root cause of behavior: sometimes your child can behave in a peculiar manner, caused by a genuine problem. Punishment is not always the solution. If you find your child hesitating to go to school, check out if there’s a problem the kids trying to escape from eg: homework not done etc

Praise good behavior: don’t take their goodness for granted. Make it seem noticed by you instead because parenting approval is so necessary for kids.

Find practical solutions to problems: hide away snacks for kids that crave trash! Child lock the TV, hide the remote and change computer passwords, to deal with cough potatoes and net surfers.

Earning good times is encouraging: strike a fair bargain with them, if they tidied their room or put back the clothes, let them have 15 mins more of caroms.

Be a friend: a young ones world is full of anxieties than one can imagine. Talk out their
Worries and this gives them an outlet and helps them gain a more receptive frame of mind.